It’s fall, and with all the leaves flying about, don’t be lulled into thinking it’s a good time to turn over a new leaf. It’s not. In fact, successfully negotiating any turning point in your life not only should be, but quite possibly could be, the last thing you do.
Several years ago, recounting the car accident that claimed the life of a teenage mother-of-two on his mother’s side of the family, my former stepson added, “What makes it worse is she had finally got her life together and was back in school.”
Isn’t that the way it always happens? The daily news is full of people struck down just as they struck it rich, received a promotion, bought a new house, gave birth to a miracle baby, survived cancer or a natural disaster. Death even has the nerve to boldly interrupt joyous events, such as weddings, with the bridal party massacred or the reception hall inescapably engulfed in flames.
I hate to think about it, but I can’t not think about it. Stories abound, too, at the local level: People who had just achieved some significant milestone when the Grim Reaper pulled up with his bus and ordered them aboard. They’re gone quicker than you can say, “But I don’t remember purchasing a ticket!”
The rest of us are left to bury the bodies and pick up the pieces. We shake our heads, mumble about the injustice of it and silently wonder who among us will be next. I scan the obituaries in the daily newspapers, ultimately as surprised as I am grateful when the names all belong to strangers.
While I haven’t done any official research, at least anecdotally, mediocrity seems to be the balm that protects more people than sunscreen. In my experience, death takes no pleasure in cutting short a life that is going nowhere or amounting to something less than worthwhile. That just wouldn’t satisfy Mr. Reaper’s grim sense of humor.
Grim Reaper, Father Time, Mother Nature. They’re in cahoots and own stock in the untimely death business, working in conjunction to insure a regular harvest of unsuspecting souls. Similar to Santa Claus, they see you when you’re sleeping, know when you’re awake and hope that you’ve done extra good, just not for goodness’ sake.
In addition to keeping one another apprised of the suddenly successful who are simply asking to be eliminated, the trio must also keep abreast the retirement roster. Recent retirements, in particular, seem to most capture their fancy, similarly to how anything NASCAR titillates most rednecks.
Bob decided to retire early so he and Joyce could travel. But Bob he suffered the BIG ONE on his way home from the good-bye bash his co-workers threw, leaving behind an unpartnered spouse, an unused golf membership, an untended garden, a host of uncompleted household projects and several unpursued hobbies.
Worries of a similarly ironic death have been on my mind more since my own life has begun an about-face in the direction of satisfaction. Please note I said “begun.” Like the wee little Billy Goat Gruff, I do not yet feel robust enough to be targeted by any life troll or death toll. I plead to be given a little more time and to be allowed to pay a few more dues to make taking me out a bit more satisfying.
For now, I enjoy the safety of my husband and I still having two mortgages and my struggle to launch a new career while dealing with the complications of dog incontinence on the eastern home front. In short, I feel reasonably certain my life is still crappy enough to keep me off Grim Reaper radar.
But once time resolves those issues, and should something really great happen to me, perhaps finally getting some long-overdue new carpeting for the upstairs, building a much-needed garage, or having some professional landscaping done, I might find myself Prime Time fodder for an untimely demise.
Heaven help me if the landscaper shows up with a shovel, dressed all in black. I promise to go peaceably, leaving behind the likes of you to watch the clock alone, wondering how long before it will be your time.