Thanksgiving marks the official start of year’s end holiday celebrations. I use the word “holiday” not to side with the politically neutral or to offend those who decry “Say Merry Christmas, not Happy Holidays.” I know the difference between Christ, my Savior, and Hallmark holiday hype, however, the Bible does not address “What would Jesus do” on cooking detail when confronted with holiday housefuls of guests.
About as close as it comes is the story of Martha (clearly foreshadowing the arrival of Martha Stewart 1900 years later!) carping about her sister, Mary, sitting at the feet of Jesus, while Martha tries to single-handedly prepare a huge meal to feed the Son of God and his disciple buddies.
While Jesus gently chided Martha about being more concerned with works than worship, he made no reference to what was going on with Martha and Mary’s brother, Lazarus. My guess is Lazarus was watching some primitive form of football game, or perhaps seated at the dinner table, fork in one hand, knife in the other, with a cloth napkin tied around his neck, waiting for Christ’s provision. Come thou, long expected Jesus, food in hand. And make it snappy! Half-time’s almost over.
A margin note in the NGHV (New Gender Honest Version) Bible would explain men from that era, not unlike their modern counterparts, saw eating as their central role on special occasions.
As Jesus has annually ignored my prayer requests to perform a turkey and mashed potato version of the loaves and fishes, I go to bed late the night before and get up early on Thanksgiving morning to perform my best version of Martha behavior. However, there is no Lazarus snoozing on my couch, nor Mary listening intently at Jesus’ feet. It is just me, myself and I hustling to prepare for the unruly crowd of 20 that descends, locust-like, upon my hospitality.
I host Thanksgiving every other year. I alternated first with an aunt and now with a nephew’s wife (we have the largest homes for formal gatherings). I highly recommend this approach, as it takes a year to forget just how much work last year’s event was. And by the time you do, it’s too late to back out of this year’s.
Growing up, I witnessed how my aunt and uncle, Kathleen and Bob Collins, flawlessly executed Thanksgiving dinner each year. It was all very pre-mediated and orderly. Never a disaster or even a spilling of a beverage, or running low on butter. But of course, they worked in tandem like the well-oiled team they are. Conversely, I have a few challenges to work around.
First, there is only one of me. That means I need to be twice as pre-mediated and orderly as my aunt and uncle, who, if Thanksgiving dinner were an Olympic event, would score a perfect 10. An unbelievable amount of hand-eye coordination is required to be mashing potatoes with your left hand and using an electric knife to carve a turkey with your right, while simultaneously stirring gravy with a spoon held between your toes.
A cordless phone remains snapped onto my waistband. Just to make it more challenging, the makers of side dishes keep calling to see how I am doing. “Is the turkey done yet?” Ha, ha, ha! Their goal is to give the appearance of being concerned about my cooking of the main menu items and solo-hosting Thanksgiving, short of volunteering to come four hours early and help. I know this routine well, as I spent many years in pseudo-helpful mode.
Then, there’s the mighty issue of my built-in kitchen oven being half the size of a conventional oven. That leads to a network of electric roasters and crockpots to crack-pottedly accomplish full-scale oven work. Try master-minding that while replacing the family one-ply toilet paper with guest two-ply.
Weather also challenges. I sometimes have to abandon my apron to go snow-blow to ensure ample parking and driveway passage for my guests. Once back in the house, I have to gauge just the right amount of wood to load in the furnace so my guests aren’t freezing or driven out by the heat.
Still hungry? My tip: remember to tip your hostess.